I discovered why I don't "need a marriage license in 2008, but let me tell you, it was not an easy journey. Check this out...
In 2008, I pondered some of the things that "belong to God." For example, I began questioning the reason why Christian ministries apply for a "501(c)(3)" tax-exempt status corporate structure. According to the United States Constitution the people of God have the right to gather freely as a church. Why have a covenant agreement with the state or government at all? It did not and does not make sense to me. I thought, “If I had a ministry, then I would give that to God, not the state.” In researching the legal ramifications of the 501(c)(3) status, several points of contention surfaced. A couple of the issues are limitations on freedom of speech and the state being head of the corporation through means of a contractual agreement. Jesus is left out entirely. Such ideas are completely unnecessary for any Bible believing church in the USA.
As I discovered the tremendous pitfalls of the 501(c)(3) pertaining to the Church's contractual agreement, I began to wonder, “Why do I need a marriage license?” The line of thinking that took me from ministry to marriage was pondering the idea, “What else is the government involved in unnecessarily?” If we have rights and freedoms as United States citizens, under the governing authority of the Constitution, “Why do I need a ‘license’ in the context of holy matrimony? If marriage started in Eden, why the ‘marriage license’ now? Did George Washington, Abraham Lincoln or Thomas Jefferson have a marriage license? If they did not have a marriage license, why do I need one? Do I really ‘need’ one?”
Meditating further on, "Give to Caesar what is Caesar's and God that which is God's," it is clear the state marriage license and certificate gives that which is God's to Caesar. We, as a people, are covenanting or contracting with the state, not God. What gives the state corporation, government, the "right" to license marriage? The government did not and does not create marriage. What gives it the right to license something it did not create? Only the Living God can bring man and woman together. Could some of these issues be contributing to the breakdown of the family unit? These are the questions I began to ask, as the LORD focused my attention on the subject of marriage and family.
The purpose of this book is to explore the Word of God, the laws of the land and the past, present and future of marriage. The goal will be to gain knowledge, understanding, and wisdom. How are Christians to enter marriage, rightly, in the sight of God, while obeying the laws of the land? Establishing long-lasting marriages and families, is vital for the well-being of our children and our grandchildren.
"So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate." (Matthew 19:6 NKJV)
While investigating the “marriage license,” it became clear, that I wanted my marriage to be set apart to God alone. I did not have all the answers back then, however, I did have enough insight to know this was a bad deal, all the way around. There had to be an alternative to the marriage license. I did not want the state to be a part of my marriage, based on Jesus’ statements regarding Caesar. (For the record, I am in favor of a marital agreement between husband, wife and the Living God. This will be discussed another time.)
In July 2009, I found myself dating a wonderful young lady. Her twin brother and I already had an established friendship. I had expressed my views on the state marriage license to her twin brother, which he had subsequently passed on to his sister months before our relationship began. Even at that time, she thought not wanting a marriage license was a little odd.
Early on in our relationship I had asked, "Are you okay with not having a marriage license?" I do not recall the exact quote, but she did affirm that she was okay entering marriage without signing a marriage license. If she had not been comfortable with this idea, I would have ended the relationship and would not have gone any further than a friendship, due to my convictions on this issue.
The legalities of marriage are simply not talked about from the pulpit or around the dinner table. The American Church, for the most part, is completely ignorant surrounding the legalities of the state marriage license. I was in uncharted waters, without much in the way of a life-raft, regarding this topic. My desire was simple, to give God all of my marriage, without any strings to anything or anyone else, besides my future wife of course.
I proposed to this young lady at the beginning of 2011 in front of her parents and younger brother. She accepted. In the excitement of the engagement, we began planning the wedding, taking engagement photos and looking for a venue. However, the marriage license had not yet been openly discussed with her parents.
In May of that same year, the marriage license topic came up after church one Sunday, while at her parent’s home. My future mother-in-law indicated that I could not marry her daughter without signing a marriage license. I said, "Well, at this point, I am not prepared to sign a marriage license." It became evident there was not going to be a wedding until this issue got resolved. At the time, I did not understand all of the legal ramifications of the license. I did know, God created the relationship of marriage, not the state.
During our relationship, I openly communicated my views on the marriage license with other family members, such as her uncle and younger brother. The best course of action (looking back) would have been to speak directly with her parents about my desires and beliefs. My hesitation was due to:
Several Conversations with Her Father
Several conversations ensued with my fiancé’s father about the marriage license. During one particular lunch we were dialoguing about the situation. Her father stated, "My marriage is blessed. The marriage license has not had an affect on my marriage. Why didn't God tell me not to sign the license? Why did He tell you about this and not me?" I replied, "I don't know?" He followed up with, "While you’re out of town, take time to ask God these questions. We'll get lunch after you get back and you can tell me what God told you." I had plans to leave town for five days. I told her father that I would pray about his questions and give him an answer upon my return. These were good, if not great questions. Admittedly, there was a bit of concern that I would not have a valid answer for him after the trip.
Thankfully, God did speak to me. I had asked the Lord, "Why didn't You tell him about the marriage license?" God's reply was humbling, "You have not, because you ask not. He never asked if he should or should not sign the marriage license. You did." Then the Holy Spirit reminded me of the book of Joshua and the story of the Gibeonites. The Gibeonites were smart. They figured if they could pretend that they were from a faraway land that the Israelites might not kill their people. Take a closer look at this story.
Joshua and the Gibeonites
3 But when the inhabitants of Gibeon heard what Joshua had done to Jericho and Ai, 4 they worked craftily, and went and pretended to be ambassadors. And they took old sacks on their donkeys, old wineskins torn and mended, 5 old and patched sandals on their feet, and old garments on themselves; and all the bread of their provision was dry and moldy. ...
7 Then the men of Israel said to the Hivites, "Perhaps you dwell among us; so how can we make a covenant with you?" 8 But they said to Joshua, "We are your servants." And Joshua said to them, "Who are you, and where do you come from?"
9 So they said to him: "From a very far country your servants have come, because of the name of the LORD your God; for we have heard of His fame, and all that He did in Egypt, 10 "and all that He did to the two kings of the Amorites who were beyond the Jordan--to Sihon king of Heshbon, and Og king of Bashan, who was at Ashtaroth.
11 "Therefore our elders and all the inhabitants of our country spoke to us, saying, 'Take provisions with you for the journey, and go to meet them, and say to them, "We are your servants; now therefore, make a covenant with us." ' 12 "This bread of ours we took hot for our provision from our houses on the day we departed to come to you. But now look, it is dry and moldy.
13 "And these wineskins which we filled were new, and see, they are torn; and these our garments and our sandals have become old because of the very long journey." 14 Then the men of Israel took some of their provisions; but they did not ask counsel of the LORD. 15 So Joshua made peace with them, and made a covenant with them to let them live; and the rulers of the congregation swore to them. ...
18 But the children of Israel did not attack them, because the rulers of the congregation had sworn to them by the LORD God of Israel. And all the congregation complained against the rulers.
19 Then all the rulers said to all the congregation, "We have sworn to them by the LORD God of Israel; now therefore, we may not touch them. ... 23 "Now therefore, you are cursed, and none of you shall be freed from being slaves--woodcutters and water carriers for the house of my God." (Joshua 9:3-5, 7-15, 18-19, 23 NKJV)
The Lord revealed something from this story, in relation to what He had spoken previously. "You have not, because you ask not." So too, Joshua and the Israelites "did not ask counsel of the LORD." Making peace with these people was not God's perfect and highest will. Joshua made an agreement that was not according to God's will, but according to his will. What can be learned from this example?
24 Do not bow down before their gods or worship them or follow their practices. You must demolish them and break their sacred stones to pieces. ... 32 Do not make a covenant with them or with their gods. 33 Do not let them live in your land or they will cause you to sin against me, because the worship of their gods will certainly be a snare to you." - (Exodus 23:24, 32-33 NIV)
The LORD spoke through Moses warning not to make covenant with any people group because it would be a snare to Israel.
Were the Israelites still blessed? Absolutely. They simply did not follow God's highest and best plan for what He had in store for them in the Promised Land.
As I write this, I hear the Holy Spirit saying, "I do not want any giants in the land of My marriages. I want all the giants removed because they do not belong there in the first place. Joshua Paul, I promise you there is more to My goodness in the things of marriage and family. I promise you. Follow Me. I have more for the people of God in the things of marriage than they are currently experiencing and settling for. Do not settle."
My fiancé’s father and I reconvened on the marriage license topic after my trip. I tell you with absolute assurance, I did not enjoy sharing with him the words that the Holy Spirit had spoken to me. It was humbling. It is never an easy thing to exhort a father-figure. Who am I to point out another's shortcomings? I have "planks in my own eye" to consider.
It was my hope to communicate as graciously and humbly as possible, the words that were in my heart. It went something like this: "The reason God never told you about the marriage license was because you never asked about it in the first place. You have not, because you ask not. You simply signed the piece of paper without thinking twice." I went on to say, "God showed me the example of Joshua and the Gibeonites. God's command was to wipe out all the inhabitants of the land, which included the Gibeonites, but because they failed to inquire of the LORD, they settled for less than God's perfect will. Were they still blessed? Absolutely. Was this God's perfect will? Absolutely not.” I concluded by saying, “All I want to do is pursue God's perfect will, pertaining to the things of marriage.”
The Beginning of the End
My fiancé and I remained engaged a few more months. Shortly following her twin brother’s wedding she communicated that she wanted to be married in the next month or two. I asked, “Have your parents changed their mind regarding the marriage license?” By her response, it was clear they had not. My fiancé gave me the engagement ring back a day or two later, following this discussion.
It was now August and we were no longer together in an official relationship, but our lives were still very connected. Working for her parent's family business, we saw each other daily. Not to mention the fact that we attended the same church congregation and had the same friends. There was definitely some initial pain, but we continued talking with each other and chose to remain friends.
In December 2011, things came to a head. It became apparent that our situation was unhealthy. We were spending too much time together due to all of our mutual connections.
One day we met at the office and discussed all that was transpiring. She told me, "I need to heal and move on. Your presence is a hindrance to me." She stated, "I need to ask you to find work somewhere else in the next month or two.” At one point the comment was made, “If you could just disappear from my life, that would be great." I also had a phone conversation with her Mom that same day. She asked, "Joshua have you changed your mind regarding the marriage license?"
I replied, "No. Have you?" She stated, "No, and we are not going to." That sealed the fact - I was never going to marry this girl.
I stopped working for the company immediately and communicated with her father that I needed to discontinue working at the business, for the sake of his daughter's heart.
Following Jesus' Word and His Holy Spirit is always the best choice, no matter how intense the decision. To this day, I truly believe the outcome was God's perfect will for us. I needed to follow my convictions. If I compromised on this issue, it would have been disastrous for the two of us. Never compromise your convictions as long as they are founded in Jesus Christ. Stand firm, even if the world is against you. "Greater is He that is in you, than he who is in the world."
It was a tough time, filled with introspection, crying out to God and asking questions like, "Why me?" "Why do I have to be the guy who won't sign the marriage license?
I could identify with aspects of these Scriptures.
34 "Do not think that I came to bring peace on earth. I did not come to bring peace but a sword. 35 "For I have come to 'set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law'; 36 "and 'a man's enemies will be those of his own household.' 37 "He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me. 38 "And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me." (Matthew 10:34-38 NKJV)"
11 Blessed are you when they revile and persecute you, and say all kinds of evil against you falsely for My sake....
44 "But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, (Matthew 5:11, 44 NKJV)
20 "Remember the word that I said to you, 'A servant is not greater than his master.' If they persecuted Me, they will also persecute you. If they kept My word, they will keep yours also. (John 15:20 NKJV)
Through all of this, the Lord showed Himself strong. As I began to pray, search the scriptures and do more research, on this topic everything became clear. God was communicating this perspective is in alignment with His heart. Sometimes we need to take a stand in the face of opposition.
In March 2012, I found myself at a Vineyard Church in Southern California. Nobody knew me, I was simply enjoying the worship service on a Monday night. After worship, the pastor pointed at me and said, "... The Lord says about you, you're a man of integrity. You've had to make some really difficult choices lately, but those choices are choices that will pay off in the future. Just choose Jesus every time. I believe the Lord has a wonderful anointing on your life. I can see a sword on you. It is like the Spirit of Truth. I think you have a way with the truth and the Word of God that's been really precious to you. I can feel that word on you. The word of truth ... "
These words were comforting. It was clear, I did the right thing not signing the marriage license and choosing Jesus. The pastor’s words were simply one confirmation.
Hindsight 20-20
I never imagined being in an engagement that would end under such unusual circumstances. Leaving my ex-fiancé's world, forced me to draw closer to God. Throughout the process of seeking, knocking and asking why all of this took place, questions came to mind, "Was it all just a waste of time? What was the purpose of all this? Did I hear You clearly?” The Holy Spirit spoke to me a few key thoughts, in the process of closing my heart to the idea of marrying this girl. He showed me that the purpose of all this was to give my ex-fiancé, her family and myself the opportunity “to mine the depths of love." I had to learn to forgive and continue loving them. They had to do the same. Truthfully, I believe they did a better job demonstrating love than I did. Each of us grew, in our own ways, regarding what it means to love like Jesus.
We parted ways from a place of purity. Praise God!
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There are two stages to the betrothal process. The first part is the "kiddushin," which is very similar to what we would call the engagement period. However, in the Jewish community this step basically communicates the couple is now husband and wife. The second part is the nisu'in. The nisu'in is where the couple goes under the "chupah" and communicate their nuptials. Betrothal is basically a contract between the two families and sealed with the exchange of gifts. Betrothal is the uniting of not just two people, but two families. The couple does not live together or experience consummation, they are simply promised to one another. All parties involved perceive the couple as husband and wife. An example of this would be Jacob and Rachel's seven year period. It was not until the seven years were completed that the two consummated the marriage. Upon consummation, the couple is considered officially married.
Kiddushin:
In the old covenant the Israelites made covenant with YHWH (God) through the Law of Moses. The Torah was essentially God's instruction book and covenant to a specific people He calls the apple of His eye.
Nisu'in:
Is the fullness of God and His people dwelling together. The Jews refer to this as the "messianic era" and believe this will be when relationship with God will become "tangible." This is where God dwells with mankind and mankind dwells with Him. Born again followers of Y'shua who have been baptized into the Holy Spirit, experience the indwelling right now. Believers are the temples of the Living God, where communion with YHWH has been restored, through the finished work of the cross and Y'shua the Jewish Messiah (Jesus Christ). The old covenant has been done away with and now the new covenant is established. Currently mankind only has a deposit of things to come, because believers are waiting for the fullness of the wedding supper of the Lamb!
The Bible is truly the greatest love story ever told. The Creator of Heaven and Earth left everything for humanity. He left all the wealth, comfort and exaltation, to come down to man's level and become dirt. Humans are nothing more than clay pots. The King of Glory, left it all behind for humanity. He left it all behind to restore His people from the curse of sin and death. He rescued mankind from the disobedience that took place back in the Garden of Eden. The only thing humanity needed to do was not eat of the tree of good and evil. Apparently, that command was too difficult. Adam and Eve could not obey. God’s children barely scratch the surface regarding the depth of beauty, character, nature and love, Y'shua has for them.
The analogy I think of, regarding Y'shua the Messiah dying and saving humanity, goes something along these lines. What He did for us would be similar to you or I choosing to become an ant, to save the ants, then remain an ant and marry all of the ants that chose to marry us. I mean think about it, becoming an ant is crazy! Why would I ever want to become an ant, to be with the ants forever? There is simply no way I would ever choose to become an ant. I wipe them up in my kitchen, crush them under my foot, without thinking twice. Maybe a better analogy would be a cockroach? For sure, there is no way I would ever dream of rescuing the cockroaches, let alone be married to one. Can you imagine? Yet this is a tiny comparison of Jesus' perspective towards us. WOW! We are so frail, weak and broken. He is all-powerful, all-knowing, all-loving, all-merciful, all-gracious, and the list goes on. He became a man, for us!
Preparation
There is a preparation period for the ceremony and celebration of the union. “Preparation” occurs within the betrothal period - kiddushin[1]. The groom “prepares” a place for the two to live. The length of time varies based on contractual obligations and other details that need to occur prior to the celebration and consummation of the marriage union.
Customarily today, there is preparation for the wedding ceremony; wedding clothes picked out, invitations sent to the guests, marriage counseling, finding a place to live and all of the many details leading up to a new life together.
Right now the Bride of Christ is waiting for the Bridegroom (Y'shua a Jewish Man) to return from preparing a place, in the Father's house. The Bride is in the process of making herself ready for the return of the groom.
Celebration and Consummation
Once everything is prepared and ready, the bridegroom is released by his father to go and gather his bride to himself. Together they go to the celebration of the wedding feast. Once the ceremony is complete, the wedding feast continues while the couple goes into a special room, set apart for them, to consummate the marriage. It was of the utmost necessity to ensure that the woman be a virgin, as was laid out originally in the ketubah. The two become one flesh. They assume a new identity together. The couple has now become husband and wife.
In review, it is clear marriage is a matter of process, purpose and testing. When God's people follow His process, seek and trust Him, stability within households comes forth in tremendous strength and reality. Society is built upon family. The next blog will be discussing the ceremony in greater detail. Key elements will be identified necessary to establish marriage from both a biblical and a lawful perspective.
[1] http://www.bible.ca/marriage/ancient-jewish-three-stage-weddings-and-marriage-customs-ceremony-in-the-bible.htm
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In reading this, it might seem like I am taking this whole marriage thing too seriously. It is true, I am taking it seriously, simply because our society really does not have a clue how sacred, holy matrimony is to the Living God. To be honest, I did not have a clue until I intentionally started looking closely at the Scriptures. Marriage is not a casual relationship. Things get tough and we cannot move on any time we want. The culture is full of bad examples and bad advice on the subject of marriage. Sadly, this cultural mind-set has pervaded the Church. The more serious and sober-minded we can be about our commitment going into marriage, the more whole-hearted and dedicated we will be through out the relationship.
On a lighter note, it is possible to have fun in the journey of discovering who God has for you. Enjoy the process. Christians more than anyone else on the planet, have the opportunity to enjoy the purity of relationship without compromise.
Prayer for Unmarried Couples
Father in Heaven, thank You for purity, righteous and whole relationships that You are developing in this generation. Thank You for the hunger and desire to be holy. Thank You for the beauty of holiness. Pour out Your wisdom on those desiring to marry in the days ahead. Let communication and understanding come forth between men and women. Let love and respect be a tremendous element in the marriage relationship. I ask for Holy Spirit unity like there is in Heaven and Kingdom marriages are established in the earth to the glory of Jesus Christ. I ask for couples to have discernment as to what it means to be equally yoked. Let equally yoked marriages be established in the dunamis power of the Holy Spirit. Let the motive driving the desire for couples to marry be of You Lord and not the lust of the flesh. I ask that the men of God arise in the earth to lead the family unit. Restore the family as You created it to be in the earth YHWH. Let Your love come down upon these marriages and future marriages. In Jesus Christ's name I ask. Amen.
What are your thoughts on marriage and being committed to one person your entire life? Are you for marriage or against? Please leave comments below and share your thoughts about the realities of marriages.
]]>There's so much one can do to prepare for the idea and reality of marriage, yet so few people actually take the time to ask the question or investigate the relationship dynamic.
Here's a small list of things to possibly consider navigating the single life as a woman from a Biblical perspective.
Men are exceedingly visual creatures, beyond what you can comprehend. Save it for the other side of, “I do.” Revealing “the goods,” so to speak, does a couple things. If you are not in a relationship it sends the wrong message to the wrong guys. Chances are women dressing in revealing clothes will attract men who are walking in the flesh, lusting after their bodies. You might also ask yourself where this need to dress provocatively stems from (if you’re one who tends to wear revealing clothing)? Take it to Jesus and let the Holy Spirit reveal the truth within your heart. Secondly, for those ladies in a relationship, it may make it more challenging for the two of you to keep things pure. Looks are important to an extent, however, 1 Peter communicates what is most pleasing to the Lord. Please, please, please realize that you are more than body parts. You’re a daughter to the King of kings. You’re royalty. Keep this reality, truth and perspective in mind. You are so valued for all God made you to be.
3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward--arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel-- 4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. – (1 Peter 3:3-4 NKJV)
1 But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine: 2 that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience; 3 the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things-- 4 that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. (Titus 2:1-5 NKJV)
There's so much one can do to prepare for marriage. Taking some or all of these suggestions will definitely help develop godly perspective in the journey towards marriage.
Feel free to leave any additional comments or suggestions below. What are some things you've been able to grab onto in your journey towards marriage, holiness and following Jesus?
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Preparation for Marriage from a Biblical Perspective for a Single Man.
It is important for men and women to take inventory of their own lives and individual roles in preparation for marriage.
A Man’s Preparation for Marriage, some key points to consider:
6 Likewise, exhort the young men to be sober-minded, 7 in all things showing yourself to be a pattern of good works; in doctrine showing integrity, reverence, incorruptibility, 8 sound speech that cannot be condemned, that one who is an opponent may be ashamed, having nothing evil to say of you. (Titus 2:6-8 NKJV)
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. (Ephesians 5:25-29 NKJV)
]]>Marriage is more than two people coming together. Marriage is about two families uniting. The old saying is true, "You don't just marry the husband or wife, as the case may be, but you marry the family too." It cannot be stressed enough, if possible, get to know the in-laws before marriage. Your mother in law, father in law, brother or sister in law will have an impact on your marriage one way or the other. Research and asses your in-laws before saying, “I do.”
People will offer all kinds of advice, both good and... otherwise. "If you love one another, who cares what the parents say? Get married on your own!" This might sound like good advice or it might not. I know this is very much what the "world" would advise. To this I say, "If I do love her, I will honor her parent’s wishes, not tear her family apart and if necessary remove myself from the situation. Love sacrifices its own interests for the benefit of the other.” Moreover, there is a much to be said about having "agreement" and the "blessing" of the parents from both sides of the family.
It is hard to imagine marrying someone, without the parent’s blessing and support. In many instances, such actions only prove to be an awful way to start a marriage and family. Agree or not, in my particular situation, I chose to honor my fiancé’s parent’s wishes by discontinuing to pursue their daughter.
Questions to ask about a potential spouse’s family, your future in-laws:
These are simply a handful of questions to consider before marrying that special someone. A great book that helps handle family dynamics is, "Boundaries" by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. This book teaches how to say "yes" and how to say "no," which is part of setting healthy boundaries.
Get to know your in-laws before saying I do. Spend time with your mother in law to be, father in law to be, because this family will have an impact on the rest of your life. It’s not a maybe or possibility, it’s a fact. If you’re engaged or in a serious relationship that you’d like to see move towards marriage, invest the time now to get to know your future spouse’s family. Better to find out now the hidden tendencies, addictions, funky attitudes, perspectives, etc.
Sitting down with your parents and then your significant other’s parents multiple times is a very beneficial thing to do. When the time is right, discussing marriage, family and things such as the holidays will be a wonderful use of time. Have you done this yet? Are you planning on it? It’s up to you to take 100% responsibility for this major life decision of marriage. Culture and society at large significantly under communicate the importance of healthy boundaries, maturity required for the major, major responsibility in the reality of marriage.
The fact you’re asking this question, doing some research on the internet about in laws and things you should know before getting married is a substantial clue that you are mature and taking responsibility for your life. You know how I know? Because the search results for Google on a monthly basis on this topic is very low. Sadly.
The last thing I’ll say about in laws and getting to know your spouses family is, don’t be afraid. Be level headed, count the cost of any issues or red flags you notice. Remember, they might be totally whacked out and be on their best behavior so that you don’t get away from their son or daughter. Use good judgment, have other people in your life that love you giving you advice. To make good decisions we need the counsel of others. Sometimes they can see things we cannot always see because we are clouded by emotions. Listen to people who want the best for you. Of course pray about the decision and have total peace about it from the Lord.
At the end of the day, it’s YOU who is making the commitment for the rest of your life. It is YOU who actually has to live it out. Many people will be eager to give you advice, tell you want you want to hear, but that’s easy. It’s easy to give advice into someone else’s life that you don’t have to be responsible for the follow through.
Deep down you know. You know the right thing to do. You know if something isn’t right. Listen to that voice. Be your own best advocate. Do the tough thing (if you need to) and walk away from the relationship. Chances are you came across this article for a reason. The Lord is trying to speak to you. Don’t worry about what others want, say or do. Follow the Lord and He will speak to your heart, it might be tough or it might now be? You’ll do the right thing and make the right decision.
Fear not. Be strong and courageous. Move forward accordingly.
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There’s multiple purposes for marriage. First and foremost, it was the first command from God, be fruitful and multiply. Secondly, God wants godly offspring. He wants us to live a life of abundance, not scarcity and He desires a family. Godly offspring bring forth a family unto Him. Marriage of a man and a woman are a direct reflection of Him.
Let’s take a closer look…
In the book of Genesis, God gives His command to Noah and essentially all of humanity. He tells Noah twice to "be fruitful and multiply."
1 So God blessed Noah and his sons, and said to them: "Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth. ...
7 And as for you, be fruitful and multiply; Bring forth abundantly in the earth And multiply in it."(Genesis 9:1, 7 NKJV)
Here God declares the purpose of humanity, to be fruitful and multiply. In order to follow this command, it requires male and female marriage relationships. The Bible continuously communicates this point throughout the entire book. The function and purpose of marriage, leads to family and the populating of the earth. Families are the bedrock of society. They keep towns, cities, regions and countries together. If the family unit breaks down, so does all of humanity.
God did not say, "Be fruitful and add." In today's industrialized, postmodern society there is concern regarding overpopulation. All of the non-biblical arguments as to why people should not have big families, are part of Satan's attack on humanity. Sadly, the Church seems to have bought into such propaganda.
China is a perfect example of population control. In fact, their society's motto would accurately be communicated as, "Be fruitful and subtract." With two people, having only one child this is the reality of what has been taking place for decades. For United States citizens, it would seem odd to have no aunts, uncles, cousins or siblings, as China currently experiences. Yet, even here in the USA people are having 1.9 children on average, per household, according to Wikipedia[1]. In the 1950's the average woman had four children.
Here is one verse that accurately depicts God's perspective regarding children.
3 Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, The fruit of the womb is a reward. (Psalm 127:3 NKJV)
Carbon Footprint Argument
From a biblical standpoint, the "carbon footprint" argument is irrelevant when it comes to the topic of having children. God never indicated a number in which the earth would have too many people occupying it. He simply stated, "multiply" without any restriction in the context of the male and female marriage relationship. The idea of "carbon footprint," conveys the idea that there are too many people on the planet because of the large consumption of fossil fuels. The argument is then made that people need to limit the amount of children they have, as is the case in China.
In the USA, people are able to have as many children as "they choose,” even though there is propaganda encouraging couples to only have one or two. God's command, be fruitful and multiply, still applies just as much today as it did in the book of Genesis. With that being said, mankind does have a duty to steward the resources of the earth and not ruin the environment. Stewardship of the earth and procreation are two independent ideas. Simply stated in the context of marriage and family, couples are to multiply.
If mankind were living according to His Word in righteousness, there would not be the issues or concerns humanity is currently facing. Ultimately, sin, such as corruption, wickedness and greed, have caused shortages of food, water and resources. The truth is, Jesus gave mankind everything necessary to live an abundant life, to thrive and fill the earth without restraint or hindrance.
Here is one powerful promise:
13 "When I shut up heaven and there is no rain, or command the locusts to devour the land, or send pestilence among My people, 14 "if My people who are called by My name will humble themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin and heal their land. 15 "Now My eyes will be open and My ears attentive to prayer made in this place. (2 Chronicles 7:13-15 NKJV)
The people of God are increasing across the face of the earth. The Kingdom of Heaven is ever-increasing. There will be a profound shift regarding the increase of the land, healing and life. This will come about powerfully as people change their ways, beliefs and attitudes, to become more like Jesus and His righteousness. People will work together, grow food, and flourish. All that needs to happen is for people to simply follow the Word of God more closely.
There is no lack in Heaven. Sin is what mankind needs to point their finger at, if there is a shortage of resource in any capacity. The "carbon footprint" message is really communicating that there are too many people living without understanding of God’s word. People however, can change their wicked ways. Somewhere along the way, mankind became industrialized, losing sight of God's first and original command to humanity. Please do not buy into this lie of limiting children because of a supposed shortage of earth's resources. Rather, what if mankind could have as many children as God permits and took care of the earth's resources much better. God will make a way and provide for His people. He is really big and powerful!
Godly Offspring
The Creator desires godly offspring. The book of Malachi expresses this fact. He wants marriages to be filled with fruitfulness. Children are to be instructed and raised in the Word of God. Procreation is one of the most, if not the most, significant purposes or elements of marriage because without it mankind would cease to exist.
10 Have we not all one Father? Has not one God created us? Why do we deal treacherously with one another By profaning the covenant of the fathers?
11 Judah has dealt treacherously, And an abomination has been committed in Israel and in Jerusalem, For Judah has profaned The LORD's holy institution which He loves: He has married the daughter of a foreign god.
12 May the LORD cut off from the tents of Jacob The man who does this, being awake and aware, Yet who brings an offering to the LORD of hosts!
13 And this is the second thing you do: You cover the altar of the LORD with tears, With weeping and crying; So He does not regard the offering anymore, Nor receive it with goodwill from your hands.
14 Yet you say, "For what reason?" Because the LORD has been witness Between you and the wife of your youth, With whom you have dealt treacherously; Yet she is your companion And your wife by covenant.
15 But did He not make them one, Having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit, And let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth.
16 "For the LORD God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one's garment with violence," Says the LORD of hosts. "Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously." (Malachi 2:10-16 NKJV)
The book of Malachi paints a picture of the importance of covenant, godly offspring and how much God hates divorce. The Lord is saying so much in these verses. Adultery, keeping one’s covenant, not dealing treacherously with each other or the wife of your youth, are all highlighted in Scripture. Notice how God identifies divorce as an act of violence. Could divorce be related similarly to the act of Cain spilling his brother Abel's blood? Divorce is violent. What a concept to think of, divorce and violence being associated together. At the very least, keeping our commitments, contracts and covenants are highly important to God.
[1] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Total_fertility_rate
]]>What does God say about birth control? Birth control is worth mentioning, as one challenge within our modern society, as to the reason the Church, in particular, has stopped having big families. The Bible clearly indicates that the Lord opens and closes the womb.
]]>What does God say about birth control? Birth control is worth mentioning, as one challenge within our modern society, as to the reason the Church, in particular, has stopped having big families. The Bible clearly indicates that the Lord opens and closes the womb.
Why does our society think using pills to stop women's bodies from functioning as the Most High intended, is supposedly a good thing? Nothing has changed in the way God has constructed humanity. Marriage and procreation is part of the plan. His commands on the subject are everlasting.
There is a documentary on the subject called, "Birth Control - How did we get here?" You can find a copy of this film at, www.thebirthcontrolmovie.com.
The production offers a great overview as to the history of how birth control came to be so popular today and in particular within the Church. It is quite an eye-opening lesson to watch and it is sobering to learn how much ungodly propaganda surrounds the topic of children in this day and age.
Condoms and Diaphragms
When discussing condoms and diaphragms things get somewhat more "grey" as to what is okay or not. The story of Onan is the only example that is loosely related to this topic. He was suppose to give his brother's wife a child, as was the custom regarding a widow with no offspring.
9 But Onan knew that the heir would not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in to his brother's wife, that he emitted on the ground, lest he should give an heir to his brother. 10 And the thing which he did displeased the LORD; therefore He killed him also. (Genesis 38:9-10 NKJV)
What displeased the LORD? It seems as though redirecting the emission onto the ground, with the intention of not impregnating his brother's wife, is what displeased the LORD. In God's eyes, Onan's actions and heart were incorrect. He spilled his seed on the ground because the child would have been his brother's, not his.
This story and example begs the question. Does using condoms and diaphragms look the same in God's eyes, as spilling seed onto the ground? What was the issue? Not impregnating his brother's wife? His hard heart? Perhaps a combination of actions caused the Lord to kill Onan?
Natural Family Planning
"Natural Family Planning" (NFP) has to do with recording the wife's cycle. Couples abstain from intercourse during the ovulation period. From a biblical perspective, NFP seems to make the most sense regarding birth control. Abstaining from intercourse during ovulation will most likely prevent one from getting pregnant. Yet, still gives room for conception.
5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (1 Corinthians 7:5 NKJV
This scripture loosely suggests abstaining from sexual relations for birth control purposes. The couple could refrain from relations during ovulation. It’s not directly contextualized using this as birth control, but to simply draw closer to the Most High God. One could make an argument, for or against birth control in this scripture reference.
Women Saved in Childbearing
Take a look at some Scripture in the New Covenant:
11 Let a woman learn in silence with all submission. 12 And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence. 13 For Adam was formed first, then Eve. 14 And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression. 15 Nevertheless she will be saved in childbearing if they continue in faith, love, and holiness, with self-control. (1Timothy 2:11-15 NKJV)
It is interesting that Paul says women are saved in "childbearing." What a profound statement to make.
Childbearing saves women? Obviously it does not mean women receive eternal salvation through childbearing. Throughout Genesis and the entire Bible, women desire children. The more children, the more God was revealing His blessing upon her life, because He alone opens and closes the womb. The scripture above is no doubt a controversial one in the Church today. Some commentaries conclude, rather than teaching or holding authority over men, women should find true fulfillment in raising godly children, continuing in faith, helping their husbands and stewarding the home.
The TV show on TLC, "19 and Counting..." with the Duggar's is a reality TV Series about a Christian family who raises 19 children. Mr. and Mrs. Duggar trusted the Lord with conception, by not using birth control. It takes tremendous faith in God's ability to provide financially and His goodness upon people who trust Him with fertility. Their story is definitely an inspiration. 19 children! Wow! This family is clearly an extreme example of what it means to be fruitful and multiply. God's blessing abounds upon them.
Fact of the Matter…
It is easy for one to say, "Have as many babies as the Lord allows." This is no easy topic because there are so many factors that go into developing a family. It takes faith to follow the Living God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob in marriage and in having children. There is a deep level of respect that is required for a husband and wife to go down this road in developing a family of any size. It is a lifelong commitment. May God’s people continue to follow His Word, as much as possible, with amazing faith. May the LORD Jesus Christ speak to each individual’s heart His truth, in this delicate subject of what "being fruitful and multiplying” should or shouldn't look like. Thank you for joining the process of asking the tough questions as to God’s purposes in marriage.
Prayer
Father in Heaven, let Your purposes in family be fulfilled in the earth. Let Your ordained marriages and couples come together at the time You have determined. Let marriages be pure and undefiled. Let Your marriages last to the fullness of days, with godly offspring. I ask for couples to arise in the earth with maturity in Your Word, character and integrity so as to glorify Your purposes of family in the earth. Thank You for the beauty of husband and wife marital relationships. Thank You for Your goodness and endorsement upon holy matrimony. I ask all of this in Jesus' name. Amen.
]]>It's interesting to note that it was John the Baptist's talk about adultery to Herod that got him killed. Wow. Notice how touchy this particular discussion regarding "adultery" is for Herodias that she wants to kill John over it. Yeah, it's a hot topic, not talked about much today. In fact, adultery is rampant, maybe more than ever? It's everywhere. If we take a close look at what Jesus calls adultery it's clear - the problem in America is widespread. We've all fallen short of the glory of God. Take a look at the scripture below as to exactly what the progression to John's death looked like:
"17 For Herod, himself had given orders to have John arrested, and he had him bound and put in prison. He did this because of Herodias, his brother Philip’s wife, whom he had married. 18 For John had been saying to Herod, “It is not lawful for you to have your brother’s wife.” 19 So Herodias nursed a grudge against John and wanted to kill him.
But she was not able to, 20 because Herod feared John and protected him, knowing him to be a righteous and holy man. When Herod heard John, he was greatly puzzled; yet he liked to listen to him. 21 Finally the opportune time came. On his birthday Herod gave a banquet for his high officials and military commanders and the leading men of Galilee. 22 When the daughter of Herodias came in and danced, she pleased Herod and his dinner guests.
The king said to the girl, “Ask me for anything you want, and I’ll give it to you.” 23 And he promised her with an oath, “Whatever you ask I will give you, up to half my kingdom.” 24 She went out and said to her mother, “What shall I ask for?” “The head of John the Baptist,” she answered.
25 At once the girl hurried in to the king with the request: “I want you to give me right now the head of John the Baptist on a platter.” 26 The king was greatly distressed, but because of his oaths and his dinner guests, he did not want to refuse her. 27 So he immediately sent an executioner with orders to bring John’s head. The man went, beheaded John in the prison, 28 and brought back his head on a platter. He presented it to the girl, and she gave it to her mother. 29 On hearing of this, John’s disciples came and took his body and laid it in a tomb." - Mark 6:17-29
Woman Caught in Adultery
But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. 7 When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.” 8 Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground. 9 At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. 10 Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?” 11 “No one, sir,” she said. “Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”
The woman who got caught in adultery is another great story. He who is without sin let him throw the first stone, paraphrasing Jesus. Nobody threw a stone and Jesus told her to go and sin no more. Stop committing adultery. Stop participating in it. End that relationship. Pretty straight forward. You got caught in this act. Stop committing the act and live.
So much of the Church seams to do one of two things, ignore the command to sin no more or remains ignorant of the words of Jesus as to how and what He identifies as adultery as mentioned in Matthew 5, along with other passages. Could you imagine if more pastors started calling this particular issue out from the pulpit for what it is, not every week but simply talk about what Jesus says qualifies as marriage and that which does not?
He really lays it out quite clearly. A pastor/preacher might lose his head or at least a large portion of the congregation, because let's face it a MAJOR portion of the so called Church is quite alright with living in the sin of adultery. The flock would be reduced to a fraction of whatever the current numbers were. Instead, we're focusing on gifts or prosperity or politics or take your pick. All of those things mentioned are wonderful and need to be discussed, yet, our families are falling apart at the seems. Satan absolutely hates people calling attention to this sin so much so that he had John the Baptist beheaded for it. I suspect we have NO idea how damaging this particular sin is upon marriages, family and humanity.
"But the man who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys himself." (Proverbs 6:32 NLT)
Marriage and family is the very thing God created to be a picture and reflection of Himself in the earth and it's coming unglued at the seems. The very essence and nature of God is family. It's so clear Satan is out to destroy the image and reflection of God in the earth, from conception to grave. He's working to speed this process up exponentially.
The people of the Lord need to take the earth back, rule and reign as God originally intended since the Garden - to take dominion. All of creation groans for the revealing of the sons of God.
Where are they? Take a look in the mirror. It's you. It's time to actually become the reflection of Jesus Christ in the earth. Look like Him. Talk like Him. Think like Him. Act like Him. Walk like Him. Heal like Him. Do miracles like Him. The works Jesus did and GREATER you will do. But first, you've got to DO what Jesus did, to do greater than He did. Holy Ghost breathe. In Yeshua's name. Amen.
]]>Listen to this gripping interview with Devon Franklin and Meagan Good. The couple shares some powerful nuggets regarding relationship, sex, intimacy and how to set up proper boundaries.
While they acknowledge individual and collective challenges in single life, the couple shares some vulnerable insight regarding relationship that anyone can grab onto. Co-Authors of New York Times Best Selling Book - "The Wait" the two release some real gems to the not just the Church but anyone looking to improve the way they do relationship.
Singles especially can benefit from this message and the wisdom there in. You won't be disappointed and it might be good to watch 5 times. :)
]]>A thought provoking message from David Pawson, who in this message indicates he's been studying this specific topic for over 40 years. He has some insightful points and walks the audience through the Bible on the topic of divorce, marriage and so much more.
Hopefully you will find this message both helpful and encouraging. Marriage is such an amazing gift of God, when handled properly.
May God bless you and strengthen you to follow His Words and Truth.
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Listen to a woman's story that you do not hear every day. A woman who is walking out repentance because of the idols in her heart that she mentions in Ezekiel 14. Wow. This story is something not talked about broadly in or out of Sunday services. The Church of Jesus Christ needs to begin coming back to true repentance. How it looks to the individual will be unique on a case by case basis. There's so much to consider and seek the Lord on surrounding this topic.
A very real and sober talk on marriage, divorce, adultery and remarriage. Listen as this woman boldly, courageously, humbly, truthfully shares her testimony that quite frankly will shock many who hear it. A demonstration of what it means to truly fear the Lord. I hope this encourages and strengthens you and your desire for God's Word over man's word.
Father in Heaven, may Your people grow in knowledge, understanding and wisdom in all matters of life. Please increase discernment for people in the arena of marriage. Let righteous, holy families arise in the earth with increasing measure. Let repentance come forth in weighty measure. Let people turn to Your Word and obey it, even if it's painful to do so initially. Let us make right choices, not poor choices. Praise You YHWH for Your mercy endures forever. You are good and there is none like You! Thank You for mercy and grace upon the people and land of the United States of America. Save souls. In Yeshua's name. Amen
]]>"Again, you have heard that it was said to the people long ago, 'Do not break your oath, but fulfill to the Lord the vows you have made.' 34 But I tell you, do not swear an oath at all: either by heaven, for it is God's throne; 35 or by the earth, for it is his footstool; or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the Great King. 36 And do not swear by your head, for you cannot make even one hair white or black. 37 All you need to say is simply 'Yes' or 'No'; anything beyond this comes from the evil one. (Matthew 5:33-37)
Highlighting Jesus’ statement above:
People enjoy communicating vows in the wedding ceremony. Without vows, what is left to the ceremony? How do people get married? Aren’t vows mandatory to qualify a marriage relationship? Not at all.
It seems worthwhile to simply change the wording up a little. What if the husband and wife did this?
Example:
John Doe and Jane Smith want to marry.
John – “I take you Jane Smith as my wife. Will you take me John Doe as your husband?”
Jane – “Yes. I Jane Smith take you John Doe to be my husband.”
This is a verbal agreement, in front of witnesses is preferred.
Something else a couple might want to communicate is their “desires” to love, serve, enjoy their spouse moving forward into marriage. These do not need to be vows, but simply a confession of the vision they have for their role in the marriage together from the individual’s perspective. Be creative in this element of the ceremony. Keep in mind, communicating “desires” or something similar is not mandatory.
Example:
Jane, I desire to from this day forward, love you as Jesus instructs in Ephesians 5 to lay down my life for you. I desire consider you before my own needs. I desire to grow with you into old age and have a beautiful family that serves the Lord.
This is a very simple idea for what could be possible. The idea to keep in mind is there's a lot of room to be creative and make the wedding day what you want it to be.
Jewish Wedding Vows
In traditional Jewish weddings there are no vows exchanged. The covenant is implied within the wedding ceremony itself. Traditionally the marriage commitment is sealed in placing the ring on the finger of the bride or groom as the case might be.
The groom says, "Haray at mekudeshet lee beh-taba'at zo keh-dat Moshe veh-Yisrael," translated means, "Behold, you are consecrated to me with this ring according to the laws of Moses and Israel."
However, many Jews do want to exchange vows in their wedding these days and are included in the ceremony as desired.
Non Denomination Wedding Vows
"I, ______, take you, ______, to be no other than yourself. Loving what I know of you, trusting what I do not yet know, I will respect your integrity and have faith in your abiding love for me, through all our years, and in all that life may bring us."
"______, I take you as my wife/husband, with your faults and your strengths, as I offer myself to you with my faults and my strengths. I will help you when you need help, and turn to you when I need help. I choose you as the person with whom I will spend my life." Vows found on TheKnot.com
The purpose of this article is to simply highlight Jesus' words on oaths, vows and commitment. With prayerful consideration, couples can get more detailed as to how their wedding ceremony could be unique and glorify the Lord. May you prosper, just as your soul prospers in Christ Jesus.
Why are transgender (gender dysphoria GID) bathrooms a bad idea?
What's the future of "transgender" lockers, bathrooms and shower facilities? Where's this taking society? Are things getting better or worse? Now society wants to combine men and women bathrooms? When are the adults in the room going to stand up and start protecting the vulnerable, weak and innocent? These locations are the most private and intimate in all of life. Such places should provide safety and peace, not fear, turmoil and stress.
Some of the best numbers seem to indicate 100,000 people in the USA suffer from GID - transgender issues. Nobody knows how many people experience this mental disorder. The USA's population goes well beyond 300,000,000 people. .0003% of the population in the country have a transgender issue generously speaking.
Something is very wrong with the leadership of the nation. "Transgender" facilities are a flat out, bad idea. The transgender conversation expresses another way women and children are NOT getting the protection they deserve. A man with identity issues (gender dysphoria or gender identity disorder (GID) describes the mental illness), desiring to identify himself as a female, and can access a woman's bathroom, locker or shower is a recipe for disaster.
Gender identity is too subjective. In this over sexualized culture, what will stop the rapist, pedophile or predator "claiming" such transgender confusion? Women have enough stress dealing with men at bars, clubs or simply walking alone at night. Now women need to defend themselves from the lurking predator with mental issues waiting in the bathroom? The individuals pushing for transgender legislation need to think more than twice about this idea. Thankfully, states like South Dakota are creating legislature to protect woman and children from such dangers (if this transgender bathroom idea is mandated nation wide).
What are your thoughts?
Agree?
Disagree?
Read about what is going on in South Dakota:
Transgender Bathroom Bill Awaits Daugaard's Signature
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]]>So many people today are discussing the topic of marriage, marriage licenses and the definition of marriage. The questions needs to be asked, "Can I get married without a marriage license? Do I need a marriage license?"
The answer is yes and no.
Depending on who the individual is and what they want to marry becomes the identifier for what is legal, recognized or neither.
For the purpose and scope of this conversation two heterosexuals desiring to come together in marriage is what will be discussed. A male and female from two different homes of legal age and consent to marry is all that is necessary to establish this relationship. There is a large amount of legal documentation and jurisprudence communicating male and female relationships. To answer the question, "Can I get married without a marriage license?" Two such individuals are able to do so legally in all fifty states of the United States of America.
"What's the point of the marriage license then?" The marriage license is created as an instrument of control and to generate income for the government. The marriage license has always been and always will be, voluntary. Unsuspecting couples regularly and ignorantly (meaning without understanding) go down to the superior court to apply for this contract with the state.
George Washington, Abraham Lincoln, and Thomas Jefferson did not have marriage licenses. Nothing has changed since the founding of this nation until now regarding the nature, relationship and legalities of marriage. What has changed is the government's desire to make money off the institution of marriage. There's been about 100 years of marketing and sales put forth in support of the marriage license. This piece of paper and the government are not the final authority on who and who is not married. The Creator of Heaven and Earth is the authority on marriage because He created it.
Marriage License Fraud: What every Christian couple should know before signing a marriage license. and The Biblical Marriage: For God or Government? are two books that educate people regarding the options available to them in the legal system. These books point out some of the realities of the marriage license and they offer different solutions available to them at their finger tips. Couples need this information to make informed, intelligent decisions regarding the contract and covenant that is best for them. Without gaining a fuller scope of understanding couples will be left in the dark as to how they might prefer to start their marriage from the outset. Reading these books will help Christians and non-Christians better understand the Bible, the legal system and the choices afforded to them under the current legal structure.
Buy a copy or two of the books mentioned above today. Share with friends and family as you are able.
]]>Amazing! "The Biblical Marriage" has jumped to #1 Best Seller on Amazon in the Dating and Relationships category, #2 for Marriage category and #2 for Dating & Relationships category!
"The Biblical Marriage: For God or Government?" released for sale within less than a week and has sky-rocketed to the #1 Best Seller Position on Amazon. This message about marriage in the United States of America could not have come at a better time. With the recent U.S. Supreme Court ruling regarding the definition of marriage, it's clear there's a major shift coming to the culture of America. Bible believers are going back to the Book as to what God - the Creator of Heaven and Earth has to say about this very unique and special relationship.
There is a revival taking place right now where people are seeking God's face for solutions on the topic of marriage. "The Biblical Marriage: For God or Government?" is a book that addresses the problems surrounding the attempt to redefine marriage, while offering practical and real solutions to fundamental Bible believers moving forward.
"The Biblical Marriage: For God or Government?" answers questions about the purpose, scope and legalities of the conversation of what marriage is and is not. For those fed up with the redefining of marriage beyond a man and a woman, this book is perfect.
Every Bible believer and those interested in the meaning of marriage needs to add a copy of "The Biblical Marriage: For God or Government?" to their personal library. Share this eye opening, message with friends and family this holiday season. This book could save Christian and Non-Christian marriages before ever saying, "I do."
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Here's a list of States that Common Law Marriage is legal in. Keep in mind, "legal" and "recognized" are two different ideas.
Alabama | Hawaii | Massachusetts | New Mexico | South Dakota |
Alaska | Idaho | Michigan | New York | Tennessee |
Arizona | Illinois | Minnesota | North Carolina | Texas |
Arkansas | Indiana | Mississippi | North Dakota | Utah |
California | Iowa | Missouri | Ohio | Vermont |
Colorado | Kansas | Montana | Oklahoma | Virginia |
Connecticut | Kentucky | Nebraska | Oregon | Washington |
Delaware | Louisiana | Nevada | Pennsylvania | West Virginia |
Florida | Maine | New Hampshire | Rhode Island | Wisconsin |
Georgia | Maryland | New Jersey | South Carolina | Wyoming |
Did you see your State listed? It should be because it's completely legal and lawful to have a common law marriage in every State in the United States of America.
The common misconception is that most State's claim to not "recognize" the marriage relationship simply because it is NOT a part of the covenant or contract or agreement. In legal speak, that means they do not have any knowledge of the terms and conditions and therefore are not able to recognize something they are not party to. The reason why common law marriage is legal in every State in the United States of America, every county in the United States of America and every city in the United States of America is because marriage is a right. You are a citizen and as a citizen you have the right to get married.
Every human has the right to marry in the confines of a marital relationship of one male and one female. Here is the United States Supreme Court ruling from 1877. 96 U.S. 76 - 24 L.Ed. 826 MEISTER v. MOORE October Term, 1877 "No doubt, a statute may take away a common-law right; but there is always a presumption that the legislature has no such intention, unless it be plainly expressed. A statute may declare that no marriages shall be valid unless they are solemnized in a prescribed manner; but such an enactment is a very different thing from a law requiring all marriages to be entered into in the presence of a magistrate or a clergyman, or that it be preceded by a license, or publication of banns, or be attested by witnesses. Such formal provisions may be construed as merely directory, instead of being treated as destructive of a common-law right to form the marriage relation by words of present assent. And such, we think, has been the rule generally adopted in construing statutes regulating marriage."
For details on which States "recognize" common law marriage click the link:
The challenge will be for you to believe that common law marriage is legal. The challenge will be for you to walk this out in real life. If this is something you are interested in pursuing order a copy of the book, "Marriage License Fraud" to learn how to have a legal marriage, without a marriage license. There's so much more to learn about marriage and the legalities than we have ever been told.
Seek truth and counsel, the answers will come forth in great measure. The time is now - to receive and walk in your God given right. Marriage is a creature of Heavenly order, not a creature of the State.
]]>You're free to disagree. I don't know that we can have it both ways. The facts are, the State Corporation makes no mention of God in the terms and conditions. God makes no reference of the State Corporation in His terms and conditions (the Bible) when it comes to the topic of marriage. He does warn His people to not make covenant with the nations surrounding Israel.
In fact, we'll explore further how He commands us not to part-take in such things as a State Marriage License contract. He alone ordains and approves marriage (working with parental permission), as it is written, "What God brings together, let no man separate." Through out history, God has given parents the authority to grant permission over their child’s marriage.
For more information on the legalities of marriage check out, The Biblical Marriage or Marriage License Fraud
]]>Does anybody know "gay marriage" is suppose to mean?
"Gay" by definition simply means - happy or excited
"Marriage" by definition simply means - the state of being in a legal relationship with the opposite sex
By the true definition of these words, it would mean two people of the opposite sex in legal relationship filled with happiness. There's nothing illegal about this notion at all.
However, what is meant when people communicate the phrase, "gay marriage" - it's referencing two homosexuals making some kind of relational commitment to be together. Another way of saying this idea might be, "homosexual covenant" or something along those lines?
Today, presently, the Federal US Supreme Court justices are meeting on a topic commonly referred to as "gay marriage." This term "gay marriage" has become increasingly popular in both the United States and around the world. Yet, the interesting thing is this idea has never received this much attention in all human history.
The irony and simplicity of this topic of marriage astounds me that there's even a discussion.
Marriage is and always will be defined as one male and one female in a committed legal relationship. This special relationship goes all the way back to the Garden of Eden. God created Adam and Eve to be fruitful and multiply, to fully populate the earth. If God made two males or two females, humanity would not have gone anywhere. Humanity would have long since died in the Garden, yet because God created male and female - thousands of years later humanity carries on.
Why?
The reason humanity exists thousands of years later is because of male and female relationships called marriage, which establish families and are completely pro "creation."
The idea of homosexual "marriage" is absurd because by definition "marriage" is a relationship expressly set apart for one male and one female. By definition it is completely an exclusive relationship.
Homosexuals who claim, "discrimination" or "Where are my rights?" are not thinking clearly or logically.
What about people who want to define marriage another way? For example, what about those who want multiple partners or God forbid "marry" something non-human? Then they would be discriminated against as well. The argument is not one of justice or discrimination, but a round about way to attack the Word of God and the Creator of heaven and earth - who defined marriage at the beginning of time. This idea is an assault on freedom of religion and speech, by condoning wickedness, unrighteousness and ungodliness.
All of these individuals who claim "discrimination" fail to realize or recognize that EVERYONE is free to marry - one man and one woman (from birth - without a sex change operation, it's crazy to think this even needs to be stated). There isn't any discrimination-taking place whatsoever. Those practicing homosexual acts don't seem to desire this right, freedom and relationship marriage offers. This is completely 100% their choice and freedom not participate in marriage.
Other arguments or conversation pieces...
What about Bible believers and their children being told that what they believe is no longer legal and they're being taken to court for such convictions? That is discrimination. That is not freedom. Such ideas go 100% against the United States Constitution. We live in an hour where anything seems to go and everyone must buy into whatever the criminal elite dictate. The truth is everything doesn't go. There is accountability. There is penalty for wickedness. The Most High - Creator of Heaven and earth will judge each individual perfectly. It's best to follow and do what He says, not what man says.
If those living the homosexual lifestyle want some kind of legal acknowledgement for their relationship to receive their "supposed" tax break, then they would be wise to attempt a different route. They need to simply come up with a different term that identifies this relationship that's never existed in the history of humanity. Petition the government for a specific license that is uniquely defined for their status. Problem solved, from a world legal system and structure standpoint. The only thing that the government and this community needs to be very concerned about is the Creator of Heaven and earth's perspective on the whole idea. The fact is, as much homosexuals want to think they can change God, they can't.
You can't change YHWH, nobody can. He's the same yesterday, today and tomorrow.
His Word stands forever. In fact, Jesus is LORD, every knee will bow and tongues confess this reality. To anyone fighting for the legalization of the sin identified as homosexuality, it's HIGHLY advisable you begin reading the Bible. If such a notion became reality, this nation is in for some major calamity. It's my hope, prayer and belief this nation will turn away from the cliff it's driving towards and return to the fear of the Lord, repent and call on the name of Jesus Christ once again.
Hopefully the United States of America's Supreme Court judges realize what they're dealing with here in terms of the HUGE offense this idea is before the Living God. His justice will pour out on this nation like water. It will be worse than anything we've ever seen in history. He will not sit by and let wickedness escalate much longer...
It's because of His great love He won't let it go on. All we need to do is acknowledge Jesus Christ as the Son of God, which He died and rose again on the 3rd day. You can be saved from eternal punishment, translated into life and son-ship to the Living God! His mercy and grace are new every morning! May this nation turn from the choices of death and move towards the life and words of the Bible.
For more information on the legalities of marriage check out, The Biblical Marriage or Marriage License Fraud
For more information on the legalities of marriage check out, The Biblical Marriage or Marriage License Fraud
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3 Behold, children [are] a heritage from the LORD, The fruit of the womb [is] a reward.
[Psalm 127:3 NKJV]
What does it look like to speak truth from a heart of love?
This panel discussion helps develop a deeper line of thinking regarding the conversation of marriage in the United States of America.
Love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind, soul and strength. Love your neighbor as yourself.
Marriage is the Apex of what Christianity is all about. Jesus died on the cross and rose again for His bride. The entire story line of the Bible is about a marriage between God and mankind. Marriage between a man and a woman is the closest thing we have to understand the fullness of God’s nature and character.
For more information on the legalities of marriage check out, The Biblical Marriage or Marriage License Fraud
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Referencing sources:
Black's Law Dictionairy - Parens Patriae
http://legal-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/Parens+Patria
What if your marriage and eventual family could experience greater unity and less strife?
What if your marriage and eventual family could experience better communication?
What if your marriage and eventual family could experience greater peace?
What if your marriage had an increased level of God's presence and intimacy?
What if your marriage and eventual family could simply experience a greater level of God's blessing upon it?
What if not signing the "voluntary" State Corporation marriage license was the equivalent to "tearing down the high places" as it talks about in the Old Covenant, specifically 1st and 2nd Kings? Notice the benefits and blessings of simply removing the high places that Israel experiences each time they tear down the high places. Notice the ramifications if they don't tear down the “high places,” which refers to the pagan symbols and worship of false gods. The difference in the blessing of the Most High God is drastic and substantial, when we are obedient.
Would the possibility of some or all of these ideas be worth it to not be in agreement with the State Corporation via the marriage license? How much money would you give to experience any or all of these things in your life, marriage and family? I would say, it's priceless. I don't know what the possible ramifications might be because as I write, my relational status is "single." Yet, I wonder what the implications of God's goodness could be to give it all to Him, without agreement with anyone or anything else besides my wife to be and God? He is the giver of good gifts.
Let's take a minute to pause this conversation. I sense that some of you married with a marriage license might be feeling disappointment, guilt, condemnation, upset, contempt, resentment, anger, rage or some sense of loss?? I don't know how these words might be impacting you, how the Holy Spirit is speaking to you or even how non-Holy spirits are speaking to you? I urge you right now if you're experiencing some or all of these things: "Take every thought captive." "Have the mind of Christ." "Put on the helmet of Salvation and the full armor of God, mentioned in Ephesians 6."
Let's direct these "feelings and emotions" into prayers founded on the truth of God's Word. My hope is to rightly divide the truth of God's Word, while not being ignorant to the whiles of the Devil, by pointing them out in this writing. Remember, he comes to kill, steal and destroy. I believe it's okay to have righteous anger about the way in which he's been stealing, killing and destroying marriage, family and life from the beginning of time. Remember, "mercy triumphs over judgement."
Let's realize we can see an entire generation set free from these snares. We can educate the coming generation as to their rights and freedoms. We can lead them back into the things of God. As we share these truths with others, let's believe for greater revelation and understanding pertaining to the heart of the Most High God - Jesus Christ of Nazareth.
Let's Pause to Pray for Marriages and Families
Father in Heaven, I/we come to You right now asking for wisdom, discernment and counsel from Your Holy Spirit regarding marriage and family. I/we lift up the family unit in prayer to establish it as You designed it to be with a husband, wife and children. Let the fear of God come upon Your people so as to walk in Holy Spirit unity and reverence for You and Your Word. Cast down the enemy from bringing brokenness, deception, division and pain to the family unit. I/we ask for Your manifest presence upon the families of the earth. I/we ask for Your help cultivating Godly marriages in becoming more holy and righteous, in the earth. May Jesus Christ of Nazareth be glorified in marriages and families across the face of the earth. (Pray anything else you'd like to or pray in tongues as the Holy Spirit leads.) I/we ask all of this in the Holy Name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Amen.
Married Couples and God's Blessing
Moreover, I'm not suggesting your marriage isn't or hasn't been blessed. I have no doubt God has shown Himself powerful and evident in your marriage relationship, absolutely! Praise God for it! I'm simply suggesting what if there's more goodness to be had? What if your children have the opportunity to go after more of the goodness of God in marriage and life? God's people perish for "lack of knowledge." What if this knowledge has radical ramifications for the Kingdom of God in the coming generation or generations? Take hope! You can be a part of that reality right now! We don't have to continue to live in Satan's deception. I do believe the marriage license is a "yoke" and "burden" we don't need to carry or participate in.
Let's be crystal clear here. There is so much that goes into a marriage aside from a marriage license. In no way on God's green earth am I blaming all of marital challenges, troubles, difficulties on the fact, there's a marriage license in the mix of the relationship. The marriage license is a major factor or symptom to some of the problems taking place in the nation's societal decline.
My point and question to all of this is, "What if there's more that God has for us in His Kingdom regarding marriage and family? What if marriage license is a hindrance to the fullness of what He has for His people because we're making agreement with the world system?"
Please hear my heart in this, I'm simply wanting to ask tough questions as to what God's highest and best is for His people. I want to know if we're being deceived into a thought process that isn't of God or His highest and best will? I guarantee God isn't afraid of our questions. I invite you to ask tough questions with me. Let's have an investigative conversation about these ideas.
Lastly, I want to acknowledge we (all of mankind) are in a spiritual battle against Satan and the principalities of darkness. My aim is to direct all points of error at him and his efforts to deceive humanity, not any one individual. We humans are in this thing called, "life" together. I need you and you need me. Let's work together to undo the works of the evil one, as we explore the topic of the "voluntary" State Corporation Marriage License together.
For more information on the legalities of marriage check out, The Biblical Marriage or Marriage License Fraud
]]>Wife:
1. a married woman; the woman someone is married to
2. female partner in a marriage
Marriage:
1. the relationship that exists between husband and wife.
2. the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law.
God designed and defined marriage. Marital relationship is for a male and a female committed to life-long relationship, living together and in most cases developing a family.
We'll take a closer look at the purposes of marriage in the next chapter. Let's develop a house of understanding built on a foundation solid rock. It's important to study history, so we can understand how we've come to the current status of this subject matter of marriage.
For more information on the legalities of marriage check out, The Biblical Marriage or Marriage License Fraud
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